It’s been five years since my mom died, and I’m finally realizing that grief is a lifelong process. Today, I’m finally ready to talk about the process and what life after losing her means.
In college, I was given a memoir assignment. I recently lost my mom and wasn’t sure I was ready to write about her. Ultimately, I chose to, and it was a cathartic experience and I’m glad I did it. I would like to share that story with you now.
I know a lot of women my age experience the feeling that they’re losing their friends to wife life and motherhood. If you are one of the women who feel this way, perhaps you experience occasional resentment toward your newlywed or first-time mom friends or the men and children taking your partner in crime away from you. Or worse, maybe you’re afraid because you feel like you’re falling behind.
I feel the pressure too, and I think it’s normal and natural, but this burden — the feelings of loss, resentment, despair, and general panic — doesn’t have to weigh us down.